Catholic and Single? Here are 5 places to meet your potential spouse | National Catholic Register

“The Christian family is a communion of persons, sign and image of the communion of the Father and the Son in the Holy Spirit. (CEC 2205)

Maybe you’ve been discerning a relationship or marriage for a while or maybe the thought of the upcoming vacation has you thinking about finding that special someone. Proverbs 31:10 says:

An excellent wife who can find? It is much more valuable than jewelry.

The same could be said for finding an excellent husband. The scriptures encourage us to marry someone of the same faith for many reasons, including to avoid unnecessary suffering and to raise godly children. But where to start ?

Here are 5 places to meet your potential spouse.

1. Holy Mass. Chances are, if you’re looking for a spouse who practices the faith, you’re probably already attending Mass. But if it’s been a while, start going regularly. Remember to make a good confession to receive Holy Communion.

Adore the Lord at Mass. Take the opportunity to raise your requests to the Lord. He knows what’s in our hearts, but rejoices to hear it. Tell him that you discern marriage and share your desire to find a spouse.

“Delight in the Lord,” says Psalm 37:4, “and he will give you what your heart desires.”

A young couple I know who attended college together first noticed each other at mass on campus. With their faith as the foundation, their relationship flourishes.

2. Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament. Going to Adoration is the key to building an intimate relationship with Christ, which will one day be beneficial in forming an intimate, prayerful relationship with your future spouse. Spiritual intimacy and marital intimacy go hand in hand.

I was proud to learn that my niece, who attends a Catholic college, recently turned down a dinner invitation from another student. His response: “I never see him at Adoration.”

Christ notices you at Adoration. The same goes for the young woman (or man) who discerns his (or her) future.

3. Diocesan events and parish activities. My diocese hosts Young Adult Singles Mix and Mingle events once a month. Check your local diocesan publication and social media to find events near you. If there isn’t one, contact your diocese’s director of evangelism and formation and present the idea. You can be instrumental in starting a much-needed service in your area.

Scan your church bulletin for activities and attend events. Get to know the other parishioners. Attend festivals, classes, retreats and conferences. You will learn and strengthen your faith while increasing your chances of meeting a spouse who shares the same core values.

4. Befriend like-minded people and coordinate activities. For nearly two decades, I worked full time in the news industry. After the birth of my fourth child, I left the company to devote myself to my children. During one of my first trips to the local park during “working hours”, I came across several homeschooled families that I had never known existed in my community. Among them were Catholic mothers with children the same age as mine. Friendships developed quickly and effortlessly.

Over time, I invited one of the families to join us in praying the Rosary at our house. The following month, they organized a Rosary evening and invited other families. From there, other families took turns hosting a “Family Rosary Night,” as we call it.

Such opportunities can help increase your chances of finding someone who shares your love of God and your family.

5. Catholic dating sites and apps. Online dating is the way of the world, but I’ve left this topic for last as I’ve never used a dating site or app myself. But…I’m blessed with a wonderful brother-in-law that I wouldn’t otherwise have, if my sister hadn’t tried a particular Catholic dating site.

An online search for Catholic dating sites and apps yields a long list of results. Do your due diligence and research a site or app before signing up. If the landing page boasts of connecting you with the “hottest” Catholics or letting you send “flirts” for free or promoting other posts that aren’t authentically Catholic, you can rest assured that the site is not for you!

Finding your spouse can take time. Be patient and pray.

“Don’t worry about anything, but present your needs to God in prayer and petition, with thanksgiving. Then the peace of God, which is beyond understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. —Philippians 4:6-9.

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